'Til Death

Why did this gay-rights activist stab her wife with a screwdriver 222 times?

Near the end of 2007, Carol and Jessica began telling friends they were separated but still sharing the house until they could sell it. Carol slept in the guest room, and the two would go days without speaking to each other. She told friends that she and Jessica wanted to divide their property and go separate ways, but neither woman trusted the other enough to sell the house and split the money fairly. And a traditional divorce wasn't an option: Since their marriage wasn't recognized in Florida, they couldn't get a divorce here; and since they didn't live in Massachusetts, they couldn't get a divorce there.

Then Carol lost her job at the Credit Union Times. She applied for — and started receiving — unemployment benefits. Meanwhile, Jessica bought a BMW and began seeing another woman, a feminist writer living in Massachusetts named Wendy Hunter Roberts.

"Carol would get so sad," Helen Gale recalls. "She said [Jessica] had become cold and cruel to her." Carol told friends that Jessica said she'd never loved her, that she didn't know how she'd ever been attracted to Carol. She complained that Jessica would spend hours on web-cam dates with her new girlfriend, intentionally speaking loud enough for Carol to hear.

Burger was a scuba diving instructor and freelance writer.  She had a fiery temper.
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Burger was a scuba diving instructor and freelance writer. She had a fiery temper.
A software executive, Jessica Kalish is remembered as gregarious and successful.
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A software executive, Jessica Kalish is remembered as gregarious and successful.

In June 2008, Carol wrote out a suicide note, but she couldn't follow through with the act.

"Jess didn't even say Happy Birthday to me this morning," Carol wrote in an email to Helen later that month. "What a putz. [It's] hard to reconcile the person I loved so much with the person I see before me now."

Helen was a close confidant of Carol's in the year before Jessica's murder; Helen too was ending a long relationship, and the two women connected over the shared experience. Carol stayed with Helen in California for two months in early 2008. Helen often came to Delray Beach to see her mother and also visit Carol. They emailed daily.

The correspondence reveals, in Carol, a torn, complex woman. She was at times optimistic, hoping to sell the house, travel, and put this part of her life behind her. Other times, she sounded jaded: "Frankly, I just don't have much faith in living in America in the next coming years," she wrote at one point. She was still devastated by the death of her mother a few years earlier. She was worried about losing the money she had tied up in the house and felt alone and abandoned. But she never hesitated to extend warmth to her friends, often dropping in a quick "I'm thinking of you" or "Please feel better..." and always closing with "Love, Carol."

Some emails reveal that she made a conscious effort to be cheerful. "Better days are coming," she wrote Helen in early summer. "Happy days, brighter days... I'll put the house on the market and get away from this toxic human being asap!"

Last July, Carol was invited to cover the presidential election for the popular political blog huffingtonpost. She wrote about young Florida Democrats, about the opening of the Obama campaign headquarters in Delray Beach, and about the South Florida gay community's push to shoot down Florida's Amendment 2, which would, as Carol wrote in a post, "enshrine one-man, one-woman marriage into the state Constitution."

"The amendment is vague," Carol told her readers, "so it could allow for disenfranchising contractual and domestic arrangements and take away recognition already granted by many cities and counties in Florida."

Though the exposure on such a highly trafficked media outlet was great, the huffingtonpost job didn't pay. Still, Carol told Helen she was hopeful: "I'm gathering the strength I need to do the unpleasant work that lies before me: getting the house ready to sell and then selling it and moving on," Carol wrote to Helen.

A week later: "I've so much work to get done in order to put the house on the market," Carol wrote. "My goal is to list it in Sept. or Oct. and hopefully to do the sale and be out by year's end."

In an email from August, two months before the murder, Carol mentioned that Jessica "had her lover pick her up again." She said she was sad. "I'm feeling pretty isolated," she wrote. "I just can't bring myself to punish people with my sad self whenever I'm down. But I usually bounce back in time."

As credit markets froze in September and the price of real estate in South Florida plummeted, Carol grew more desperate. She told people she felt trapped. The rotating highs and lows seemed to spiral, taking Carol deeper into a dark depression. But she refused to take medication. "I'd rather just be sad than chemically dependent," she wrote to Helen. "If medication works for you, great. It's not for me. Most people I know who've taken them never seem to get off that merry-go-round."

When she took Helen to the airport at the end of a trip in October, Carol began sobbing uncontrollably, saying she didn't want Helen to leave. "I can't go back to that house," Carol cried. "Not with her. I can't take it."

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mia30
mia30

just because its to ladys means nothing , it was a guy and girl no one would care. as u can see one of the woman did not want to be in the relationship, and the other could not accept being left .so really it come to " if I cant have u no one will" and that's pretty normal isn't it!! you hear about it all the time. so really no difference. and all u people who think its wronge, y is love so wronge? u cant help who u love, man or woman married or not and don't say that it doent happen cause it does


kfrasu
kfrasu

Are you all crazy? You actually think that because they were lesbians, that the lifestyle is the reason for the murder suicide?  I hear about heterosexual murder suicides every other day so I don't know what you're talking about.  Get with it idiots. 

Caniggia
Caniggia

What a load of bullshinkle this story is trying to portray crazy obsessive behaviour as normal.. lesbians are evil thats what I can tell.

Trying to push the gay marriage agenda makes me sick and even with this glaring evidence of how wrong it would be they turn it like having a marriage would've made it better? haha!

totallycommon
totallycommon

Can't say I am surprised...a couple of degenerates and the one snaps....nothing normal about two women marrying one another.....sad and sick story of two people that were obviously very sick!

Ewwww
Ewwww

Typical lesbian behaviour, I dont see anything weird or even a little strange here. People really need to understand how screwed up these people are, they are dangerous, obviously.

RhodeIslandRedhead
RhodeIslandRedhead

Really, really sad and tragic.  But how could same sex marriage save this couple?  Just because they got married in one state and couldn't get divorced-what's that got to do with the price of tomatoes?  They were fully aware that same sex marriages weren't legal in their state.  How could legalized divorce save this couple?  It doesn't save lots of other heterosexual marriages in which there is abuse or one of the spouses won't let it go and move, and so they kill the other partner.  That comment holds no water and is ridiculous.  It doesn't matter if you are straight or gay/lesbian.  If the other person is crazy and is hell bent on killing you, sexual orientation and whether perhaps they could legally get a divorce probably wouldn't of changed the outcome.  It is a really sad and horrible thing to happen.  I've heard of horrible murders, but this takes the cake.  May everyone involved rest in peace.

Nancy
Nancy

Just another example that people are people, regardless of sexual orientation. However, I'm still uncertain whether leftists can be regarded as human.

Megan Lynn Kautz
Megan Lynn Kautz

No wonder people kill each other in this world. People like you make other people feel its ok to kill no matter who it is its a life and no one should get a right to take it away 

Lynb362002
Lynb362002

She wrote for the huffingtonpost .com????LMAO! I knew those people were all nuts!

Alan
Alan

 the number 222 served as an inescapable representation of one woman's immense pain and anger"

It it were a man I guess we'd call it the inescapable representation of men's claim to dominance and voilence against women...

In truth lesbian relationships are well documented to have higher rates of violence than heterosexual ones.

Sue
Sue

I find it so humorous that the most ignorant people on here seem to be unable to read since they think Carol Burger should be sentenced to life in prison.    Since she is DEAD as well, it is apparent they didn't read the article to the end, or that they but still jumped in with their comments.  

It is always those with the least to say... that say it the loudest. 

While this story is certainly universal... and happens to both hetero and gay couples... it IS an example of why we need to insure that all American's are afforded the SAME rights.  Perhaps if they had been able to divorce more easily... they would be living happy lives today.

Julia
Julia

I think they should give her two consecutive life sentences, hey people this was a viscous ruthless murder involving a mentally deranged control freak of a woman, It almost sounds like most of you are sympathizing with this monster that killed someones daughter that they loved and cherished very much, and condone what she did, MURDER!!!. What a double standard people have, and a bias, and stereotyping, and prejudice against select others in similar circumstances. I wonder how it would have been written for man that did that to a woman and how the readers would have responded to that ? :(

Lwilt13
Lwilt13

Typical of a relationship gone bad where one can accept the rejection. Nothing to do with sexual orientation.

The Watcher
The Watcher

Wow...222 times with a screw driver, well I was always told if you were going to do something put in the effort and do it right .. just another example of.two sick deviates, love the part about going up to the new Neighbors and declaring they are gay in front of the children and hanging the Flag upside down ..Burger just took out the trash and the police will take care of the other half of this loving relationship..lol At least berger will have all the carpet she can munch in prison...lol But it is florida so maybe the needle will apply...

reb
reb

lovey - "thats why you dont mess with girls if your a girl, women are very controlling and possesive (RUN)"

Yeah and men aren't.

pfffttt

LOVEUYH
LOVEUYH

thats why you dont mess with girls if your a girl, women are very controlling and possesive (RUN)

M. Johanneson
M. Johanneson

This story is the wet dream of every intellectual everywhere. Both the fundamental premise as well as the gory details of the story are so riddled with cliche that it could be studied as a microcosm of modern social dysfunction - cause AND effect. And that's not even getting started on the irony. Mmmm - sweet, DELICIOUS irony. In a world where demanding freedom from responsibility for one's psychoses is the new "black," I say we eagerly grant equal rights to stab one's domiciliary companion to death - just like any other dysfunctional human being possessed by the passionate throes of extreme denial might do at any given time. I wish this murder had occurred and been published before I had finished my dissertation...

clarissa
clarissa

Carol was clearly unstable and had violent tendencies. Sexuality has absolutely nothing to do with this story.

Caniggia
Caniggia

@Nancy No. Lesbianism leads into too much evil in this world it's just not reported or investigated as it would destroy the whole Feminist house of cards. They're really screwed up people in their heads.. possessive obsessive and playing mind games with others heads .. nasty nasty.

hicusdicus
hicusdicus

People killing  people is mans oldest tradition. I don't make anybody do anything except maybe you. In any bad situation you would the first victim. All homosexuals are emotionally unbalance people. A lot of them will admit it. Apparently you are of that emotionally distraught  group. Don't try to justify it just go with the flow. I don't really care what you do or think..The only rights you have are the ones you take for your self. Oh yes! I would never have a queer as a loved one I make better choices than that. A dog would make a more reliable companion.

hicusdicus
hicusdicus

 Rights have nothing to do with murder. People kill when they feel it is necessary or it just floats their boat. You seem rather naive.

guest
guest

How sad that the loss of life seems like something to celebrate to you.  

Piperlee
Piperlee

Very sad story. Like any murder-suicide anywhere, a tragedy. Especially so in this case where these women and gays in general are subjected to the sick and sickening hatred of people like Queers.

Caniggia
Caniggia

@Alan And the Feminazis would never want that truth to be told as they are exactly the same - hatred filled lesbian screw ups.

Caniggia
Caniggia

@Sue Idiot they were not married since lesbos cannot marry they could've just separated and be done with it but they were too deranged and playing mind games over each other, not trusting (who would trust a crazy lesbo) having that typical possessive obsessive sickness dictating their actions.. better they both ended up dead so in the end good riddance.

hicusdicus
hicusdicus

The sheriffs assoc. says the most horrendous crimes are usually homosexual based. Gays just naturally start out more emotionally frayed than the average person.

Lynb362002
Lynb362002

Give two life sentences to a dead woman??? Why not finish reading the article, then pop off...idiot.

Caniggia
Caniggia

@Lwilt13 Bollocks it had everything to do with the "orientation" aka "lifestyle" choice - yes I said it _choice_

Idiot131
Idiot131

@The Watcher   Clearly, you're lacking reading comprehension skills...both women are dead.  Try reading the entire story before commenting next time.

hicusdicus
hicusdicus

The blood flows when the dyke breaks. She should have kept her finger in the hole.

Julia Wissert
Julia Wissert

Maybe you should have considered a dissertation on extreme narcissism and looked closer towards home. Wishing a murder had occurred earlier to benefit your own selfish needs, is despicable, It indicates some serious concerns regarding mental wellness, PhD, Dr, or whatever  label you prefer to let the world know you have achieved, is also disturbing in that it indicates very low self esteem and self worth.  Good luck in your issues with self esteem deficits, and your attempts at helping others. Sometimes working through others problems, provides guidance and resolution in ones self.  

hicusdicus
hicusdicus

Queers are sick, sounds close to perfect to me.

hicusdicus
hicusdicus

It helped clean up the gene pool.

Idiot131
Idiot131

@Caniggia  You clearly didn't read the article.  They got married in Massachusetts in 2005, as soon as Mass made it legal.   Read before commenting and proving yourself to be the real idiot.  

Caniggia
Caniggia

@Lynb362002 I had to force myself to read it to the end as it was obviously written by someone who wanted to push the (gay) lesbian agenda and it was too obviously trying to portray crazy behaviour as "acceptable", explaining everything thru "emotions" rather than calling an obvious crazy murderer what she was, a murderer.. Furthermore trying to make a possessive obsessive murderer a "victim" .. just distasteful bollocks. But you're probably a lesbo so you liked it.

NotBrainWashed
NotBrainWashed

@Julia Wissert Julia, Julia, Julia.  That's not what he said.  

You are showing yourself up to be a nutcase.

Caniggia
Caniggia

@Avarielle Yes you're correct - homosexuality is a choice - a choice of degenerates, screw ups and mind gamers.

NotBrainWashed
NotBrainWashed

@Avarielle You need to practice what you preach.

Homosexuality is a serious mental illness.  They are 40 TIMES more likely to kill each other (note the overkill).  The females are 60 TIMES more likely. These people (and Magnotta ad Berkowitz and Dahmer and Nielsen) are seriously deranged, just look at their evidenced actions.  They are a serious danger to society.

The problem is not them (or any other mental patient).  The problem is those who control society, making homosexuality "normal", taking it of the manual of mental diseases by political, not scientific, means. So now there is an explosion of homosexuality and paedophilia in society. We need to make society safe for our children.

Don't you dare bring God into it.  He has pronounced against homosexulity (and all their perverse activity) very clearly.  God does not ask us to love the devil.

Ewwww
Ewwww

Let me tell you something, during over three decades I have never met a lesbian who wasn`t completly insane and full of hate. Not one. Two of them tried to kill me and the rest just treated me like trash. So you tell me, why should I give a shit about a couple of filthy, insane lesbians? Huh? Can you answer that? When they respect me I`ll start to respect them, I tried but got nothing but hate and shit in return, most of them hate men more then you can imagine. So until they pull their heads out of their girlfriends asses and start to behave and respect people they can all go to hell for all I care.

Ewwww
Ewwww

I agree. I have never met a lesbian who didn`t treat me like trash. And let me just point out that I never did anything to disrespect them, nothing, I was polite. But still just my presence seem to bring out the demon in them, two of them tried to kill me, ok?  If thats not a  good point then nothing is. I`ll never trust a lesbian, never, they are full of hate and they are dangerous, if I meet one now I just walk away, fast. 

hicusdicus
hicusdicus

I have met plenty of homosexuals and the female ones are the worst. They seem more full of hate than the males. As far as people judging me that's in your frame of reference not mine. Not all heterosexuals are emotionally unbalanced but ALL Homosexuals are. That is one of the reasons they are the way they are. As far as Jesus goes, just another human delusion that helps people pass the time until they die.

Avarielle
Avarielle

You're STILL adding your inane comments to this article/commenters? It's now almost three years old.

We get it, you didn't like homosexuals.You still lack general human compassion/decency three years later.

These women are dead but you kept obsessing over their sexuality.  Almost three years later and you still can't stop obsessing over what they did when they were alive.

Your comments had the brilliance of a prepubescent boy engaged in school yard taunting. Almost three years later, your intelligence is still as stagnant.

So much hatred and so many vile words for women you never even met.So much wasted time and energy over the past three years.

You're wasting your life being so judgemental and close-minded.Imagine the things you might have accomplished if you hadn't wasted THREE YEARS of your life blaming your bigotry on God.

"Love one another, as I have loved you." and "Judge not, lest ye be judged."After three years, do you still really not get that Jesus was speaking to all Christians (yes, even you)?

People judge you by your actions and words.Three years later, the same standard applies.

You can harden your heart and spread hate or have some compassion and speak with love. And no, you don't have to agree with homosexuality. You can still act like a decent person. You don't have to agree with gay marriage. You can still be sad for the loss of human life. You don't have even care about gay rights. You can still think of how you'd want someone to treat/speak of your loved ones if one of them had been one of these women.

Your life - look at your choices.

Idiot131
Idiot131

@Caniggia  It must be absolutely ruining your very futile existence right now that gay people are getting rights and making headway in being accepted.  You are pitiful.  I feel sorry for you.  Those of us who are thinking individuals know that our straight relationships and marriages are not at all affected by two gay strangers gaining the right to marry.  Pull your head out, many more important things exist to worry your little tiny brain.

 
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