Monte opened Club Hedonism in 1974, but he tells people that partner-swapping dates back to the days of Julius Caesar. "Everything began with Romans," he says, "the public orgies."

The first accounts of swinging in America came from military couples near the end of World War II. By the 1950s, the phenomenon had spread to the suburbs. But the modern, mass-market form of swinging didn't come about until the early 1970s, on the heels of the sexual revolution. That's when Plato's Retreat, America's first on-premises swingers' club, opened in New York, in the cavernous basement of the Ansonia Hotel, in a defunct gay bathhouse where Bette Midler and Barry Manilow performed early in their careers.

Almost immediately, similar clubs started opening in Boston, in Chicago, in Los Angeles. Deenie's Hideaway opened in Coconut Creek in 1973, and a handful of other South Florida clubs followed suit.

Maurice, the Trapeze chef, prepares a gourmet spread for the guests every night.
Candace West
Maurice, the Trapeze chef, prepares a gourmet spread for the guests every night.
Part of the Trapeze backroom, where hundreds of people get naked together every weekend.
Candace West
Part of the Trapeze backroom, where hundreds of people get naked together every weekend.

Monte has seen the evolution firsthand. "In the '70s, swinging became a big trend," he says. More private, so-called "bi-wives clubs" popped up in neighborhoods across the country. By the end of the '80s, a new fear of sexually transmitted diseases — most notably HIV/AIDS — gave America pause. "That scared a lot of people away," he says. Many of the biggest clubs, including Plato's in New York, closed. In the '90s, a series of raids on South Florida sex clubs scared even more people away, even though the criminal charges were dismissed.

So for years, Monte says he kept his club out of any kind of spotlight. He has the small sign that stands out front, but he puts it up only on weekend nights. His business subsisted on word-of-mouth advertising. "One couple would come here and have a good time, then tell a few of their friends. Then they'd tell a few of their friends."

The majority of people in this subculture are middle-class couples who live conservatively in other aspects of their lives. In researching his book The Lifestyle, published in 1999, journalist Terry Gould found that a third of the group-sex participants he spoke to had postgraduate degrees, almost a third voted Republican, and 40 percent considered themselves practicing Protestants, Catholics, or Jews.

Says Monte, as he prepares for a busy weekend night that will include dozens of couples: "This is as liberal and open as it's ever been."

Mark and Karen, a couple in their 50s, have been coming here for more than ten years. His slicked-back dark hair matches his closely cropped beard, and his white, buttoned-down shirt is undone to his sternum, revealing a large dragon medallion. Karen, a short, shapely blond, has on a sheer, white Guinevere-style dress with a slit up the side and carries a silver lighter with the word Slave engraved across it.

"The way I look at it, monogamy is a carryover from the feudal system," Mark says. "Men went away to war and didn't want to have to come back and raise some other guy's kid. But we live in a time of birth control." Jealousy, he says, is just thinly veiled insecurity. As he speaks, he caresses Karen's leg. "We don't need to try to control each other."

Susan is on her third drink, and she's still flirting with the young blond. She explains that she came of age in the '70s and always had a bit of a wild streak. She got into "the lifestyle" — the most common term used to describe swinger culture — six years ago with her husband. They started "soft swapping" — when the women engage each other but there is no interpartner intercourse.

In the beginning, they would swing only with single women. After a few years, though, there was a guy or two she "felt like going all the way with," and they began "full swapping." Although she was afraid she would get jealous, she said that when they finally crossed that line, "I just didn't feel territorial... It was titillating to watch."

Because of her work as a teacher, she was always terrified that someone might see her. But that was also part of the thrill.

Susan steps outside for a moment to smoke a joint with her friends, then returns, still reminiscing about her husband. "An incredible man," she says. This used to be their favorite club. But one night three months ago, he suddenly died. They'd gone to the club that night. When they got home, they finished off a passionate evening in the bedroom.

"You know how every woman gets up and walks to the bathroom after sex?" she says. "Well, I had just gotten up, and when I came back, he was on the floor."

She recalls moments they shared here, some charming, some erotic, and some gross — like the time he dropped his ring and ended up digging it out of a trash bag full of used condoms.

Unlikely as it may seem, Susan says, fellow swingers have become some of her closest friends. Mark and Karen call her at home to see how she's doing. They get her out of the house. As Mark hears Susan telling her story, he slides his hand over her leg. "We look after one another here," he says.

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longtrail60
longtrail60

I have been to swingers club if you don't have a lady with you single guys don't have much of a chance

bigjuicy720
bigjuicy720

So how do I find these clubs and are they all swingers clubs or is there a sex club for just a single guy wanting to fuck

lizlovesmail
lizlovesmail

Club Secret in Kissimmee Florida is definitely worth checking out. 2 dance floors, lounge area, massive playrooms, midnight pool party's, full bar and best of all no reason to drive home. Club Secretalso has an adjoining 135 room hotel so the party can continue! 

Book your stay and cum & play with some of Central Florida's hottest swingers!!!

lrsenne07
lrsenne07

What I would like to know is if this "lifestyle" is supposed to be so great than why do these people not come out and say who they really are?  Why all the secrecy?  Sorry I don't buy into it.

Swinglifestyle
Swinglifestyle

Multiple clubs, great response, Keep swinging people

Frank and Jessica
Frank and Jessica

Club Hedonism is mediocre and tired.  We just stayed at the Seagate 2, at the Lorelei on 501 ORTON AVE.  It's a swinger hotel, swinger resort very close to the beach and all the night clubs.  We really enjoyed the nude sunbathing and nude swimming and we met some very hot couples who enjoyed swining and the lifestyle.  There was a great complimentary barbecue and a sex room, play room on premise.  The best part of our stay though was all the hot swinger couples we met and all the sexy single ladies who loved to have sex.  For women, it was a bisexual, lipstick lesbian paradise. We also enjoy the fact there were no SINGLE MALES!  That made our stay even ten times much better.  The Seagate in Fort Laudrdale is a great swinger, lifestyle vacation and if you have the chance check it out!

www.seagaters.com

Itzach Stern
Itzach Stern

I have heard that sex clubs and that awesome atmosphere and ambiance really captivated my thoughts and convinced me to go back again.

sumisa en madrid

dancilhoney
dancilhoney

From what we saw sex clubs madrid was cheaper than any other clubs but the club is really nice good music and an awesome set up! Will definitely back there again.

J45guitar
J45guitar

Never before has the phrase, "Oh, for cryin' out loud!" been more appropriate. 

hc
hc

my favorite part of this article is when the author tries his best to delicately describe a situation in which a woman on returning from the privy having just cleaned cum from her snatch finds her fat naked husband in the mist of what was most likely a drug induced pulmonary embolism, only to then describe this whole old, fat, white, republican, orgy scene (poor haitians cleaning white geezer spooch off of vinyl... gotta be some kinda fuckin' slavery) as a loving and nurturing place where people come together after a crisis. funniest part of the story. digging through trash receptacles full of cum and latex to find wedding bands is also pretty fuckin' funny and sums up the social as well as cultural ethos of south florida.

cheers to you sick motherfuckers. may the tides rise up and sweep you away.

Daughter
Daughter

Greetings Mr. Mooney,

I am emailing you today regarding the recent article you wrote on Trapeze. I am the daughter of Maurice, the main chef at Trapeze. When my father informed me that he was going to be interviewed by you, I was delighted at the prospect of reading this article because I knew that the focus would be in part on the quality of the food he prepares for Trapeze. While I can neither comment on the accuracy of your depiction of Trapeze nor your overall experience, I can affirmatively highlight a few unfortunate misstatements you made in the article particularly in your overemphasis of my father’s nationality rather than the quality of his food. In at least two occasions in your article, you described the main chef merely as the “Haitian man”. Rest assured, I have no issue with you identifying him as Haitian because after all we are proud Haitians. However, it saddens me that you chose to accentuate that particular fact over his actual role at Trapeze. Many who have frequented Trapeze can attest to the fact that Maurice is an exceptional chef with over 15 years of experience. Accordingly, any reference to him in your article should have focused more on the quality of his food not merely on his nationality. What relevance does his nationality have to do with his job as a chef? He neither cooks nor specializes in Haitian food. I am certain you would not find it necessary to repeatedly remind the readers of the Chef’s nationality if he were of a different background. Hence, such reiteration provides room for other inferences, which I am sure was not the intent of this article. As a lawyer in training, I believe that we have long past those days where one’s nationality or background can overshadow the product of one’s skills. I will not speculate as to why you chose to highlight my father’s nationality, but a reasonable mind may infer that it was for negative implication. Personally, I would have loved to keep this article as a memory of the first time my father’s name ever mentioned as a Chef, but I regretfully have to defer it for another occasion where my father is not turned into a non-descript caricature.

Now, with respect to the demographic of the Trapeze’s Kitchen and Cleaning employees, you inaccurately dubbed most of them as Haitians. Not True. You will find that Trapeze is a very diverse workplace where the employees are from various racial and ethnic backgrounds: Whites, Hispanics, African Americans, and yes a few Haitians. Again, I am puzzled by the excessive emphasis on “Haitian” and this behooves me to question the underlining message of this article. Sincerely,

Trapeze Management
Trapeze Management

Thanks so much for covering the lifestyle in this edition of the paper. We are aware some time has passed since the writer visited and just wanted to update that while the condoms on the floor would signal to some that this was one hell of a party, it sounds gross. We have since corrected the problem and invite you to come check out the cleanliness of our back room, if you can take your eyes off of all of the hotness surrounding you that is.

Android Phones
Android Phones

Swinging is a dangerous lifestyle. Sexually transmitted diseases are on the high.

HankyShanky
HankyShanky

Great depiction of both the fun and the dangers of "the lifestyle." Swinging is like any other part of life. Alot of great people and a lot of annoying assholes too.

Craig
Craig

well sign me up

lrsenne07
lrsenne07

@hc AMEN.  Sick people if you ask me.  That is why they hide behind only their first names.  If you are so proud, then say it loud!

bigjuicy720
bigjuicy720

I hate pple who get pissed over a racial remark fuck race shit i don't believe in races

lrsenne07
lrsenne07

@Android Phones I couldn't agree more.  My "ex" tried to recruit me to this garbage a few years ago.  I did not know he was a swinger, but had met many of his creepy friends.  None of them had anything going on for them and they all just seemed to be a bunch of sex addicts.  The fact that people try to normalize this "lifestyle" is sick.  Needless to say I did not stick around..

 
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