Occasionally, sugar daddies don't even want sex, says one pre-med whom we'll call Jenny. She joined Seeking Arrangement when she was just 18 and quickly started seeing a 43-year-old who helped her get into college. But things got weird when he told her he was seeing another sugar baby too. "If I couldn't show up for dinner, she would take my spot," Jenny says. But she needed the money for tuition. "The three of us agreed to get screened [for STDs] every three weeks," she says. "I was really paranoid. I trusted him, but I didn't know what she was doing outside the relationship."

It was a strange relief, therefore, when her second sugar daddy said he didn't want to get physical. "I thought it was odd," Jenny says. "Eventually he admitted that he had a daughter that I reminded him of. They didn't have a good relationship, so he treated me like his daughter. I was rewarded for my good grades. I was spoiled. He would take me out shopping. That was a proper sugar daddy. I wish they were all like that."

But they're not. Many men on Seeking Arrangement send messages setting prices for particular sex acts. Jenny calls these men "salties," compared to "sugar daddies" who dote on women or "Splendas" who are sweet but don't spend much money. "A salty will say: 'It's going to be $500 or $1,000 a month, but I expect sex in return,' " she says. "I tell them, if you want sex in return for money, you should find yourself a prostitute."

Illustration by Joseph Laney
Illustration by Joseph Laney

Brittney, however, says it's all semantics. She is under no illusions that she's selling anything other than her body. And she's as much on guard against cops as she is abusive sugar daddies. "In order to have a successful business, you have to take chances," she says.

Sugar babying has been good to her, but she would never recommend it to anyone else.

"It's just too dangerous for your own good," Brittney says. "It's basically like jumping into a shark's nest. The odds are against you."

Rachel knew something was wrong as soon as the tall, sweaty sugar daddy started sprinting. They had met before in public, but this time she and a friend had driven to his place in Hollywood. He greeted the two women outside. "C'mon, guys!" he yelled, wiping his nose like a child. Then he started running toward his house.

"Oh my God, he's under a crack spell," whispered Rachel's friend as they followed him through the door. Inside, he confirmed that he was on his "party drug." Did they want some? Then he switched on the club light in the corner, stepped behind a turntable, and started spinning house music.

"That was weird," Rachel tells New Times, before admitting that she and her friend hung around the crackhead's house for nearly two hours so they could collect $300.

Despite security measures and public reassurances, the fact remains that sugar baby sites can be extremely dangerous. By encouraging female students to meet strange, older men for money, the websites put young women at serious risk of rape or assault. Sometimes it's the sugar babies themselves who aren't so sweet. Women have used Seeking Arrangement to blackmail wealthy men out of hundreds of thousands of dollars. Either way, what was supposed to be a no-strings-attached agreement can quickly get messy, maybe even deadly.

Two years ago, Manhattan real-estate broker Lakhinder Vohra was quoted in a New York Post article as saying that Seeking Arrangement "changed my f—king life."

"When does a guy like me — aging, losing hair, big belly — meet a girl like this?" he told the paper as he licked a lovely lady standing next to him.

Before long, though, the website banned him for harassing women. But the millionaire divorcé simply created another account under the screen name "Daddy Loves Arm Candy" in late 2012.

Then, on January 23 of this year, the 46-year-old was arrested on charges that he sexually assaulted a woman he had met through the site. Vohra met the woman for the first time at his swanky Wall Street apartment, where he allegedly threw her "face-down on the bed... placed his hand on the [woman's] back" and raped her, according to the police report. (In court, Vohra claimed the woman was trying to extort him. The case goes to trial July 31.)

"Yes, he used the site even after we originally kicked him off," Wade admits. "What that points to is that online dating websites or even Craigslist can be a very dangerous place to be if you aren't careful." Wade says his company cooperates with cops on "several" such cases every year but declines to give numbers or details. And instead of accepting responsibility for founding a website built on anonymous sexual arrangements, he blamed the woman for poor judgment.

"[Vohra] never went through the background verification," Wade says, adding that women can choose to talk only to verified sugar daddies. "At the end of the day, you are an adult. If you want to take a risk, what can we do?"

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It's prostitution, whores!  This is the what the parents in Florida have done to their children and the whole system in Florida is corrupted! This will catch up to them and bite them later in their careers.


Where is the site for young male college students to get money from Cougies?

DonkeyHotay topcommenter

Would not Prostitution ... by any other name ... taste as sweet?