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(Spoiler alert: The following piece discusses up to the February 16 episode of Looking.)
HBO’s Looking has had a tough time winning over its intended fans. Upon its premiere, Gawker’s Rich Juzwiak yawningly summed up the political achievement of creator Michael Lannan’s wonderful half-hour dramedy about three homosexual men in San Francisco as “gay men get to be boring on TV at last.” Slate’s Bryan Lowder was similarly unimpressed, decrying the show’s lack of political edge by describing it as “gay that’s polite and comfortable and maybe a little titillating but definitely not all up in your face about it.”
But Looking, which has just been renewed for a second season, obviously isn’t relying solely on dutiful gay armchair-activists for ratings. Its three main characters — midlevel video game designer Patrick (Jonathan Groff), artist-turned-artist’s assistant Agustín (Frankie J. Alvarez), and waiter and aspiring restaurateur Dom (Murray Bartlett) — resonate beyond gay culture. There doesn’t seem to be any public analysis of male vs. female viewers for the show, but I’d bet a huge chunk of its audience is women, since the series offers female viewers something they can’t find anywhere else on TV.
Looking isn’t feminist, at least not overtly. There’s only one female character: Dom’s roommate and friend Doris (Lauren Weedman), a loud, fun broad whose screen time in six episodes totals about five minutes. And yet Looking is a perfect show for women because it offers them — or more specifically, feminists — the chance to see reflected on screen their aspiration of living in a world almost wiped clean of sexism. And that world is wonderful: Wedding bells are reduced to a distant ping, biological clocks disappear, and Erica Jong’s elusive zipless fuck suddenly becomes not just an everyday reality but a really hot three-way.
Here’s how Looking makes all our feminist dreams come true:
1. The gay male characters are easy to identify with.
Gay men are not and never have been women, but the show offers a comforting acknowledgment that Dorothy and her friends can find solidarity in their shared marginalization in a straight male world. In the show’s third episode, “Looking at Your Browser History,” Patrick explains the frustration of living in a culture where the default mode is Straight Dude at a work party for his video game company: “They keep telling us that we have to expand our demographic, and then they force us to make a game where you can’t even play as a female. And I’m a guy and I always play as a female, and before you say it, it’s not because I’m gay. … Women are the outsiders in games, and I relate to that.” Since Patrick spends the most time with straight men, it’s natural that he would feel this commonality between gay men and straight women — and the hetero-derived pressure to be a top (more on this below) — most acutely.
Then there are the activities that would be familiar to virtually all twenty- and thirtysomething women (yet alien to most straight men): quoting Golden Girls to friends, playing the gaydar game about strangers (“he has got a very gay laugh”), and opining about circumcised versus uncircumcised.
2. The (relative) lack of heteronormativity.
Lookinglets its thirtysomethings be thirtysomethings, instead of a pair of rapidly rotting ovaries or a collection of wrinkles and sags — a tendency found even in a lighthearted sitcom like Zooey Deschanel’s New Girl, which devoted an entire episode to thirtysomething women’s declining fertility last year. In that sense, Looking offers an escape from pressures of biological doom and a reflection of the
