Her 8-year-old daughter, wearing a one-shouldered red dress, is too transfixed by Babar playing on the tube to notice Mom's extremely adult talk.
Though most of her claims can be found in court records, the woman says she is still too "terrified" to have her name published. She was, by von Houtman's own casual admission, his mistress. He kept her on the side for four years while he was married to his fifth wife, Hong Kong-born Lily Lee Cheng.
In 1996, the mistress was a stunning, curvy 23-year-old nail technician. Von Houtman was a flashy 51-year old rake in a white Lamborghini who managed Nautilus Fitness Centers in Boca Raton and Fort Lauderdale. To the young manicurist, whose parents were in debt, the baron represented "a big score."
But the violence started eight months after they began dating, she says. It was unrelenting. Behind closed doors, she says, von Houtman punched her, choked her, and forced himself on her on a daily basis. He loved mixing sex with violence.
In 1996, she filed a restraining order against him, claiming that he had "beat her with riding crops," raped her the day before Christmas, and "threatened to kill her if she attempted to leave him," according to court records. When she didn't show up in court, the injunction was dropped. "I was too scared," she explains. "I thought he would really kill me if I made the injunction official."
After two years clean, she blames the baron for addictions to cocaine and other drugs that destroyed her mind. So does her mother, a tough Swiss immigrant with whom the mistress still lives. "Her mental problems are his fault," Mom says with disgust. "I'd kill him if I wasn't so scared of him myself."
Von Houtman denies the accusations and says the women have no reason to fear him. "Have you met [the mistress]? She's absolutely insane," he scoffs. "I've never used a drug in my life, except for a couple of glasses of wine, and I've never beaten a woman."
Indeed, it might be questionable hearsay if at least two of his ex-wives hadn't made remarkably similar allegations in public records.
Born in Bournemouth, England, as Richard Anthony Houtman, he'd been married and divorced three times in his home country before immigrating to South Florida in 1987 at age 42. Within two years, he had wed Leslie Frances Drucker, who was 13 years his junior. It was apparently a violent 13-week marriage. During their 1989 West Palm Beach divorce, Drucker submitted photos of her bruised face after alleged beatings and testified that von Houtman often bound her and once punched out her front teeth. "The husband is a violent and vicious individual who takes delight in assaulting his wife and threatening her life," declared her lawyer, Martin Haines. "The wife is in fear for her life and safety as [von Houtman] has threatened not only [Drucker] but her family and has bragged to the wife of numerous killings... he has perpetrated."
Haines dissected the finances of a man who he says had a big-money lifestyle but no discernible income: "Von Houtman... claims to obtain all his money in the form of loans from business associates in Amsterdam and from friends and family members. Regardless of [von Houtman's] lack of employment, in recent years, he purchased with cash funds a waterfront home and lot in Boca Raton, Florida, costing $1.2 million and a Lamborghini... Houtman has deposited cash money in various bank accounts in South Florida totaling more than $600,000 [in a four-month period]. Some deposits were done by wire transfer from Amsterdam, some were direct deposits of foreign currency brought from Europe by Houtman, and some were made by depositing large numbers of small denominations."
Haines' conclusion: Von Houtman "profits from drug trafficking."
Von Houtman claims he made his money as a real estate speculator working for a "Dutch businessman" named Klaas Bruinsma. Nicknamed "The Minister," Netherlands-born Bruinsma was Europe's most notorious Mob boss in the 1980s, orchestrating the import of hundreds of tons of hashish from Pakistan to Europe.
Von Houtman allows he took loans and invested for Bruinsma in Florida, including using the drug lord's Panamanian mortgage company, Villiers Shipping, to buy the Boca Raton mansion where the baron lived from 1989 to 1991.
Though Bruinsma served three prison stints for drug trafficking and attempted murder, von Houtman insists that "he was a good man, a man of my tastes, and an impeccable dresser. He was a drug lord, but a legal drug lord." Von Houtman insists Bruinsma moved marijuana and hash within the laws of the Netherlands, where drug laws are rarely enforced.